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Fear as a Companion

Updated: Apr 10

Hello WILD ones. Today, let's dive deep into a topic that's close to my heart: fear. Yep, that four-letter word that has an insidious way of creeping into our lives and holding us back from living the life we're truly meant to live. So, grab your favourite cup of tea, cozy up in your sacred space, and let's explore how fear can be a significant roadblock on our journey to authenticity and freedom.

Picture this: You're standing on the edge of greatness, feeling the pull of your soul's deepest desires. You can practically taste the sweet nectar of fulfillment, but then, out of nowhere, fear rears its ugly head. It whispers tales of doubt and uncertainty, casting a shadow over your dreams and aspirations. Sound familiar? Well, lately, I have been considering fear as a companion and I think it's showing me some new things!

Now, I'm not here to sugarcoat things. Fear is real, and it can be downright paralyzing at times. But here's the kicker: Fear only has the power we give it. Yeah, you heard me right. It's like that pesky little gremlin that thrives on attention. The more we feed into it, the stronger it gets.

So, how exactly does fear hold us back? Well, let me count the ways:

  1. Fear of Failure: Ah, the classic fear that keeps so many of us playing small. We're afraid to take that leap of faith because we might stumble and fall. But here's the truth: Failure is not the opposite of success; it's a stepping stone on the path to greatness. If you are choosing to live a brave life, fully expressed as you, it's not a matter of if, it's a matter of when. You are going to fail. So maybe it's time to redefine what that means. To me, it's a potent reminder that I am choosing to live authentically and I am expressing the story that lives inside of me. I am the only one who can do that, so how can that be wrong?

  2. Fear of Rejection: We all crave acceptance and belonging, don't we? But fear of rejection can keep us shackled to relationships and situations that no longer serve our highest good. Remember, you are worthy of love and connection just as you are, you arrived here already belonging. You don't have to prove your worth. And, like Brene Brown always reminds us, the only way we can truly belong is by belonging to ourselves first and foremost! So that means showing up, just as we are at any given moment. In the mess, in the glory, in it all and if that isn't met with utter acceptance, carry on, that shit is not about you! Do not betray yourself in order to fit in, that is not belonging!

  3. Fear of Change: Ah, change—the one constant in life that seems to scare the crap out of us. We cling to familiarity like a security blanket, even when it's stifling our growth and potential. But here's the thing: Change is the catalyst for transformation. Embrace it, and watch your world expand in miraculous ways. You already know what is meant for you from moment to moment but so often we give into the narratives in our heads that keep us living small and so unhappy. When those fears about change show us, break it down, be curious about the unknown, be curious about the potential, the dream, the aliveness that lives inside of you when you think about the wild dreams that are trying to be born. Sink into the beauty of the possibilities of writing your own unique story, the one only you can write!

  4. Fear of Uncertainty: Let's face it, none of us have a crystal ball that can predict the future. And yet, we waste so much precious energy worrying about what might happen. But here's the truth: Life is inherently uncertain, and that's what makes it beautiful. Embrace the unknown, and trust that the universe has your back. Trust in your own wisdom, the wisdom that lives in your bones, the wisdom that has always been there. That is the relationship we need to nurture. When we embrace the uncertainty and stay present on the journey we will see what an incredible life is waiting for us. You don't get to know, so stop wasting time on feeding that phantom beast and get excited about the 'what if!' What if I trust myself and take the leap and my life unfolds in the way I have always imagined. What if I trust myself, my intuition and my wisdom and I become more whole with each step into embracing the not knowing. There is magic in the unknown, so strip down and sit in it for a while, get quiet and listen. Your soul has aways known the way, so listen and trust what you hear.

So, how do we break free from the grip of fear and start living our authentic lives? Well, like most things we want to look at, it starts with awareness. Take a good, hard look at the fears that are holding you back. Shine a light on them, and watch as they lose their power over you. Let your sacred friendships support you and witness you so when the many voices of fear show up to smoosh you down, your sisters can shine the light on the truth. You know the way. So take a breath, sit under a tree and let it all arrive.

Next, it's time to cultivate courage—the antidote to fear. Courage isn't about being fearless; it's about feeling the fear and doing it anyway. It's about taking those bold, courageous steps towards your dreams, even when your knees are shaking and your heart is racing. Take a small step, even one so small it seems undetectable. Have your own back and do not betray yourself. Choose to be brave and choose to tell your story, the one that lives inside of you. The one that contains the medicine for you and for every being who is lucky enough to hear it. Trust the beat of your own sacred heart. it knows the way and it will not lead you astray.

And finally, it's about cultivating trust—trust in yourself, trust in the universe, and trust in the journey. Know that you are infinitely supported and guided every step of the way.

In order for us to grow when we embark on these journeys of self discovery we will inevitably bump up against those very fears that hold the story with our heart hostage, the expression of our soul self dwells here.

These awakenings are meant to change us and to move us to the next level of awareness, leading us closer to who we are what we are here to do. Fear is the reminder that we are on the precipice of unwrapping the soulful story that exists inside of you. Fear is a big obstacle to uncovering this soul work. Fear, combined with stories that are deeply internalized from our families and the stories and dogma forced on us through culture hold us bound and paralyzed. Being trapped in these stories and narratives will interfere with our becoming. Our fears and our stories become the very things that trap us and keep us from fulling expressing our souls voice. We lose our life force and we become deeply trapped within this path of the small self. 

Fear is our companion. It is here to take us closer to the truth. We must face it in order to transmute and transform. Fear will be the death of us if we avoid it. Fear, if we allow it, will lead us to the truth. We must see the fear all the way through. We must allow fear to be the beacon that we are on the precipice of great change. Fear can either lead us to fight/flight/paralysis or it can be our companion that accompanies us in seeing the very essence of the fear all the way through to the other side. This is where transformation occurs. So step by step we walk the path, we look into the dark caves and crevasses, over and over. We see the fear all the way through to the other side. This journey will transform the fear and show us the inner wisdom and courage that exists deep inside of us. This antidote cannot be found outside of us. The wisdom is found by walking the path of fear. Fear moves towards us and we continue to move towards it. in that process we find ourselves. We find the truth. We become who we were always meant to be. 

The stripping down to find the true self, to find the essence of whot we have always been requires a brave heart. We must see the stories entangled around us from our family unit, from the conditioning of the world and we must walk with our fear. We must face it all in order to find the story we were born to tell. 

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